Category: Dating and Relationships
I'm curious to get some opinions about this. If someone is a virgin, is it best for him or her to experience sex for the first time with another virgin or with someone who has experience? I recently talked with a young man who wants me to be his first lover. I'm not interested in him that way, but that's beside the point. But it made me start thinking about this.
So what are your opinions?
I really don't know if it is another virgin then fine if not then fine, I've leaving it up to God. (and I'm sorry if I offended anyone by talking about God)
I lost my virginity. I'm not sure where I put it though. Any help would be apreciated. if you see my virginity, please feel free to let me know. I'd like to get it back. It keeps running away!
LOL Liam. Hope you find it. I think it depends on the two people. Sometimes two virgins stumbling their way through their first time together can end up learning through trial and error and have it be a positive experience. But for some people it might be better to have their first experience with someone who knows what they are doing.
I agree with cat lover. If neither know what they're doing there is a chance that it could be a positive experience, however in my mind that chance is low, but with someone who knows what they're doing the chance is quite high that it will be. I also must add for girls...Don't get a guy who is worried only about his pleasure. I've had 4 guys, and 2 of them were this way, not a good percentage ahe? Anyways, it isn't fun this way; well maybe for him, but not for the girl!!!
hello listers, well i was 19 when i first lost my virginity, and I lost to someone who was extremely expereicned with men, and the penis. It wasn't the best experience I had, but oh well, that is the chance you take.
hmmm. I haven't really thought about it. I've never been there.
well wa 19 she was older and a teacher for me it wasn't astressful as it might havebeen had i been with someone who also was a virgin learned lot that day<smile>
I would definately say the virgin would be better off with someone who has experience..Apart from the confidence of the person the experienced women is less likely to suffer pain when he enters her.Many virgin women have painful 1st time sex, and some can even bleed as the hymen is ruptured which can be extremely frightening..
My first time, was with another vergin, However, we were in a long term relationship, so though it was pretty unsuccessful for both of us that first time, we learnt quickly, and had lots of fun. I can see the advantages of having lost it to a more experienced person, and maybe sometimes that's the right thing.
My first time, was with someone much more experienced than me, who knew what he was doing, and who cared how it was for me. Given that, for a girl at least, your first time is pretty much guaranteed to suck, I think getting someone who cares, and who cares about you, is pretty important.
I don't really remember much about my first time.
I don't think experience matters, it's just how you feel about the guy that counts.
LOL, I wish it were that way for me. The first guy I was with I loved and it hurt almost every time...He didn't care to help me enjoy it so plain and simple I didn't. He saw it as only his pleasure.
Never been there eitehr, but aren't both people suppose to have pleasure? Geez.... I mean its a two-way street so to speak, no?
well, again I haven't done it, but I would agree that someone with more experience is the way forward. If a girl doesn't know what she's doing, how is the guy expected to? However, my own reservation with regard to this is, if you are doing it with someone more experienced and do badly your first time, which I'm sure can happen as you yourself have no experience, you will not please her and that could lead to complications, no? Just my untested viewpoint
Off the point a bit, but Blindguy, I think it's sad that you don't remember your first time.
Experience is important as sex with a less experienced partner can be nothing less than a bloody uncomfortable struggle.
i'm still waiting for that special girl, i couldnt give my body to just anyone.
Well As for me I really think that is in the hands of the lovers. But as to what I would want I would save loosing it for my weding night. Honestly there is more to a relationship then sex. You and your lover have to really care about each other. I mean with the guys I had they all thought with what was in their paints rather than their brains. Don't get me wrong though but well I do prefer girls over guys because girls know what they want and that is that.
The way I see it is if you are with some one who does not have much experience than if the person really cares than you have a pretty good chance if they are willing to heklp make it work.
Hmm you would be better putting in some long hours in the laboratory
I agree it should be pleasure for both, and I'm lucky enough to be with a guy who feels the same, but that isn't the way a lot of guys look at it, and no, I'm not just slighting guys, but I've talked with so many women who have never had an orgasm that it saddens me greatly.
Ya, but that's what alcohol does, no regrets.
Yeah, I aggree that it should be special, and u should have some experience, but you should also have feelings involved -- physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.... My first time wasn't good at all. It happened in July and I was dumb enough to fall for it. It was painfull, and I have only been with four guys but somehow I still have pain.... But, that doesn't matter... My point is.... Every single guy I've been with just wanted some... Even the guy I am with now, thats all I think he just wants too. But, what the hell, why are guys so just about thereselves?? Why can't they give a fuck about who they are with?? Can't they have any emotions or anything involved?? well, Ill write more lata... If n e 1 has questions, feel free to email me..
Yeah it is terible I wou,ld at least try to share my emosions if It was my first time. I had a problem with trying to oposte before that is why I am trying to do again.
How about you learn how to type coherently then worry about emotions?
Yep I lost mine to an experienced one, and, i don't think I would have been able to do it any other way! I mean being, I guess I'd say, sexually kinda unknowledgable myself, I needed ongoing instruction if ya like Lol! but definitely, and as has already been said, someone who cares for you! :) .. I have heard of ppl who have lost their virginity to one night stands as "silly teenagers", and cos they don't care, it's very rough and they tend to regret it later especially when they hear the more meaningful losing of it when in a loving relationship! :) No rush. It's well worth waiting for that most special person who you just know they're right. I was (and still am Lol :) 26, but if I had to be 30 or older, well great!
Sorry I was on my laptop trying to type my respoons, but any way I am still praying for that special person to come into my life. I am about to go crasy over here.
Matthew
Um, my first time was to another virgin. I think it was actually pretty hilarious. But that was the cool thing. We both laughed about screwing up (no pun intended), so neither he or I felt awkward or uncomfortable. Eventually, we did it enough times and learned quickly what felt good and what didn't. I think being with someone who cares about you and whether or not you're getting pleasure from it as well as he is is important. Oh, we also read up on the subject quite a bit. Google, people. Use it, it works. And you can find some pretty helpful hints and tips if you're a first-timer and have absolutely no idea what to do. Or just ask someone more experienced about it. I did that after looking up the stuff. Hee hee.
lol Allie, like it...... Well, I wish I could swap with you bg.... I can remember my first time, an it was horrible. That said though, as WC said, first times for girls usually are. In reference to somethign else I think wc said, sorry if it was someone else, it's a shame that more guys, andpeople in general, don't realise that, ninety percent of the time, it's very hard for women to have orgasms. It's not slight on the guy, it's just a well documented fact. If only guys would realise that it's not because they're doing anything wrong...
Lol Allie, my attempts at finding sexual facts on google unfortunately lead me to porn more often than not Lol! haha .. I'm no good at the correct keywords! :) rofl
Well, I'll google it again and I'll post any web sites I find here. *GRIN*
I would say that I would want to experience it with someone more experienced because i would not know what to do. But I would not leave a partner just because he is not a virgin. Lol. But I would prefer someone experienced - and someone patient. Not someone who just does his part and just "roles over me".
I really want to loose my virginity to some one with experience. I just think it won't be so awkward. If not than hell... I'm not complainin to much.
bring em on Oll! :) Lol Lol hahaha
Lol Rachel.
OK< Rachel, here's that promised link.
http://www.sweetecstacy.com/tutorial/sexposition1.htm
Lol hahahaha ah gee thanks for that! :) just in time for my trip! Lol woops! hahahaha
lol, y'all are crazy!
Virginity is like a seed. Sooner or later, a cock will take it away
...well I was trying to translate it :)
if you're straight that is.
As somebody who is experienced, I like sleeping with those who have little or no experience. The main two reasons being that 1, it'll be a lot better for them than if they had slept with someone with little or no experience. The second reason being that, assuming they have an open mind, you can introduce them to/them/teach them various things which in itself can be a real turn on for both people.
Yeah like Chelsea, I wouldn't just give it away to any guy or girl...still waiting....and I think it depends on the people, but it's good to hear what resonant said just as advice for us young peoples.
Losing one's verginity is something that's a topic for careful consideration.
My first time was horifying at best, because of circumstances beyond my control,but, it does get better, because being a virgin is not just a physical term.
I can say with certainty, that, losing my virginity for the "first time" for me, was nice, but it's not like in the movies. My partner was very kind and gentle, and I'm glad I took that step.
It is hard for a woman to have an orgasm the first time, maybe she is worried about pleasing her partner, or it may be that she's nervous. I Think it depends on the woman/person.
Also, there may be psychological issues that one/both partners are dealing with.
So, be sure that when losing your virginity, that it's with someone you really feel comfortable with, and will have no regrets afterwords, because a first time only happens once.
I feel like a total loser. So many people here, who are in simular positions as me, are no longer virgins. I not only have never been with a female, I dont even really know what the vagina feels like.
Well a vagina can be nice and smooth, or if they don't shave it's like fighting through shirwood forrest.
Well... I lost my virginity with another virgin and it was, let's be honest, total crap. We listened to South park after it, oh what a romance!!! lol But well, I grew up and took experience. I'd say that make love is like to walk. When you first walk, you fall, you cry, it hurts and well, you can't believe that some people do it all the time. "Why would I walk? I'm so comfortable and safe in mommy's arms." Make love, especially 2 virgin together, is a bit the same. I didn't cry, it didn't hurt so bad, but I was like...: Hmmm.... In movies, it sounds soooo amazing... and that's only it? You need to take things slow and be comfortable. The first time is usually not that great but after, mmm... NOw, I looooooove to make love. smile Also, I like to initiate, in other words, I love to be the first one for a guy. Really big turn on. Well, that was my point!
Lol Jared! :)
I lost my virginity to my to another virgin. There is nothing wrong with it just as long as it is specail for both people. Love it blind no matter who the person is or how many partners their love has had or not had.
I have very mixed feelings on this score. In theory it would be the most romantic, the most pure the most special to be with another virgin for your first time, however in practice it would seem that even if love is there and even if good communication is established that it might be considerably more acquard, painful and unpleasant to loose your virginity to another virgin. Loosing it to some one with more expirence might make it more comfortable and they might be better able to teach, but if there's been many others before you, then it is in some ways less intimit, less special and les meaningful and profound. It's a toss up, truly. Making such a decission seems increasingly difficult in today's society.